The New York Times had a nice little holiday piece about Christmas envy from the Jewish perspective, while The Washington Post featured the Hindu American perspective as its version of the hearty holiday feature staple of a minority religious view on our Christian nation’s most vivid annual ritual. At my brother’s house, we combined all three religions, for our annual German Jewish-Hindu Christmas celebration, replete with beautiful tree, bountiful presents, and one of the most amazing shrimp dishes I’ve ever tasted, a South Indian recipe of tiger shrimp dusted in curry powder and then sauted in a sauce of tamarind pulp, diced garlic, black peppercorns, mustard seeds, red pepper seeds, coconut flakes, coconut milk, oil, and curry leaves. My three-year-old niece sat at the dinner table singing “Dreidel, dreidel, dreidel” and calling for challah with butter in front of a batik of Ganesh as we tucked in, veg on one end of the table (cauliflower rice, matar paneer, dahl), meat on the other (curried chicken with cashews, that shrimp dish), for what everyone agrees was the best Christmas meal ever.
The syncretic Christmas has taken various forms in my family over the decades, from the most traditionally Christian — roast pork loin for the main and stollen, a traditional German Christmas cake representing Christ in swaddling cloth, for dessert , with German marzipan on mirror diorama-building activities for children — to the most Jewish-American — everyone ignoring the holiday and small groups getting together for Italian or Chinese food. In recent years, I’d waged my own lonely war on Christmas (which consisted entirely of asking the question, “Why are we celebrating Christmas?”), as the number of family members I had to shop for ballooned from six to nine to 11, and now 15 people, none of whom are Christian, and the expense and effort of celebrating a holiday none of us believe in began to seem increasingly ridiculous. I have to say, though, this latest version, which has jettisoned the Germanic-American dishes for Indian recipes new and old, works fantastically. I’ve even managed to negotiate side-agreements with some of the relatives (present truces, we call them), so that we don’t have to get each other things. That’s progress.